Now that we have seen how the separation experience affects the children, it is time to examine strategies to help children cope.
We have been talking about the separation experience for children and how important it is for you as a parent to understand their experience. Now we are going discuss what children need to hear from you when your relationship ends.
Children are very aware of what is going on. Children learn by their parents’ example. When you can make positive changes, the children will benefit as well.
Children need to hear the following over and over again during the separation process:
Be sure you keep telling your children these things.
On the other hand children don’t need to hear you venting your emotions. Here are some examples of things you should not say:
Don’t express negative, critical statements about the other parent – saying negative things about the other person puts children in emotional conflict and makes them feel bad about themselves.